Friends help!

Last night we had a board meeting for our FSA group.(Our meetings are 50% business and 50% laughs it seems) These people we work with have become our friends. They understand the road to adoption since they are on it. They also have hit bumps as well. The best part of getting together is we can talk and laugh about what we are going through.
Humor is a great help, I don’t think we could have made it through the past 3 years without good friends who understand and a good laugh once in awhile.

FIND vs WAIT

Scott and I have been "waiting" for our miracle for almost three years now. I will be the first to say that this time has not been easy but as I said in my blog today, Trials are a part of life and how you deal with those trials measure your strength of character.
We try to stay away from the word WAIT and you will often hear us talking about finding our baby. We know that there is a baby out there that is supposed to come to our family; it is just a matter of finding that baby.
There is a great comparison between FIND and WAIT in a booklet called Someones Missing

WAIT

Waiting is passive. It is being idle and is extremely unfulfilling

W— “WHAT IF?”

As we wait, we may stay in a constant stat of “what if?” We may put off plans and not take full advantage of our present opportunities while we sit by the phone waiting for that important call.

A— ANXIOUS

As we wait we may get restless and uneasy. We may feel a lot of anxiety and worry about things over which we have no control

I— INSECURE

As we wait we may feel insecure and doubt our capacity to parent. We may feel un-worthy and have a sense of low self-esteem

T—TENSE

As we wait the tension may grow. If we are not careful contention can easily enter the home and we may begin to blame and easily hurt each other’s feelings

FIND

Finding is active. It is begin proactive in the search for your child. It is following the principle of doing all that we can and then relying on the Lord to help all things work together for our good.

F—FAITH

It takes faith to search for your child” faith in prayer that Heavenly Father will guide us and place us in the right places; faith through fasting that we will encounter the birthmother carrying our child; faith that the Lord will direct our paths and help us find our children.

I—INSPIRATION

The Spirit can inspire us to talk with those around us about our desire to adopt. As we listed to promptings and live close to the Spirit, we can be divinely guided in our efforts.

N—NETWORKING

It is beneficial to talk to everyone. Using every possible channel to get the word our can expand our voice and can increase the likelihood of finding our child.

D—DIVINE INTERVENTION

Once we have done all that we can do, we can rely on the Lord to intervene in our behalf. It is only through Him that all things are possible. The Lord will direct our paths.

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I personally have found, especially recently, that if you focus on the Lord and put your trust and faith in him, things generally have a way of working out. Not to say that things aren’t still difficult, they are just more manageable.