It is great to see several stories in the news this past week on adoption. It was even nicer to see that they were positive. However, one small thing really gets me as I hear or read these stories. The term “give up” or She gave up her baby. Over the past 3 years we have been waiting/working on our miracle and especially the last 2 years where we have been teaching the adoptive couples to be class, I have yet to hear or see a birth mother who “gave up” her baby. They give up their right to parent that child not the child itself. To give up sounds like they don’t care or love that child. Nothing could be further from the truth. They loving place their baby (often their first born) into the arms of another mother. Hoping and trusting that this couple can give their child the life she can’t. Other terms bug us as well. Babies are not “put up” for adoption; you put your house up for sale. They are not “adopted out” like you would a litter of puppies. She doesn’t “get rid of” the baby either.
The whole adoption process, as we have seen it, most of the time is all about love for the child. Love of a birth parent that can make the rough choices and the love of the adoptive family as they get what they have been aching and yearning and praying for. Simply put. “It’s about Love”
1 comment:
I agree with most of your little black words, but I do't have the same problem with "giving up". In fact I think the description is apt. The girls who place want so badly to be the forever mother of their babies. They are in a very real way giving up their dream for the best interest of that baby.
Congratulations on your recent placement.
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